Get out of pain and off the crazy train.

I don’t believe you’re the problem, and I don’t believe your partner is the problem. Your pattern is the problem. Change the pattern, and you change your relationship.

But there’s a reason you’re stuck in that pattern. A very good reason. Maybe it’s what you were modeled in childhood. Maybe you learned that “this is the sacrifice I must make to be loved.” It may not be fun, and you may not consciously want it, but it’s so familiar.

Your painful patterns are often motivated by shame and fear. In couples therapy, we get to the root of the shame and fear so you can get back to pursuing respect and love.

With couples, I primarily use Relational Life Therapy, which builds on other transformative therapy models like Transactional Analysis, Attachment Theory, Internal Family Systems, and Pia Mellody’s work on codependence to help you get unstuck. I may also incorporate elements of the Gottman Method and Emotion-Focused Therapy when appropriate.

Relationships are hard work—but the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results. All too often, couples work harder on the same old patterns, with the same old tools, and they wonder why it’s not working. Therapy is also hard work, but it’s the right kind of hard that gets you back on track toward a relationship that’s loving, life-giving, and, yes, even fun.

So if you’re ready to try a different kind of hard that can actually get you the results you want, click the button to schedule a free 15-minute video consult.