Get out of pain and off the crazy train.

I help emotionally disconnected but committed couples break painful cycles and rebuild deeper, more secure relationships.

I don’t believe you’re the problem, and I don’t believe your partner is the problem (though don’t get me wrong, I will call out destructive or damaging behavior). Your pattern is the problem. Change the pattern, and you change your relationship.

And yet there’s a reason you’re stuck in that pattern. A very good reason. You may not consciously want it, but it’s so familiar. Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that 69% of arguments in marriages never get fully resolved. But you can change the reactive patterns related to these disagreements—usually rooted in shame and fear—that are destroying your intimacy.

Through approaches like Gottman therapy, Relational Life Therapy, emotion-focused therapy, and attachment-based therapy, we’ll identify the pattern that keeps showing up across different arguments (because it’s never really “just about the dishes,” right?), help you break the cycle, and build a healthier, stronger, more intimate bond. I’ve worked with many different kinds of couples, but some special areas of focus are neurodiverse relationships, Christian marriages, and families in ministry (especially international).

Relationships are hard work, but the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results. All too often, couples work harder on the same old patterns, with the same old tools, and they wonder why it’s not working. Therapy is also hard work, but it’s the right kind of hard that gets you back on track toward a relationship that’s loving, life-giving, and, yes, even fun.

So if you’re ready to try a different kind of hard that can actually get you the results you want, click the button below to schedule a free 15-minute video consult.