Get Support for Singleness & Your Dating Journey

At age 22, I watched as my friends started getting married one by one. While living overseas after college, more of them tied the knot, and I couldn’t help but feel like I was really missing out. As my singleness stretched out over the years, I sometimes wondered, What’s wrong with me?

Years later, I still wasn’t married, and I had emotional scars from dating unhealthy, narcissistic men (many of whom were in ministry). Despite my best efforts, I found myself repeating the same unwanted dating patterns. When I dated someone healthy, I often sabotaged the relationship due to my own unresolved issues.

I loved God, I wanted to love others well, and I was doing my best—but it wasn’t working.

That all changed when I decided to return to dating apps—but with one key difference this time: I was in therapy. I was finally able to let go of perfectionism and approach dating as a journey of discovery, not a race to marriage. Rather than rushing from A to Z, I embraced the process, allowing trust to build step by step. I learned how to notice flags and wait to see what color they might be, rather than making hasty decisions OR completely ignoring them. Having a safe space to process with a therapist allowed me to evaluate my relationships with clarity and confidence.

Today, I’m happily, messily, and gloriously imperfectly married, and I’m here to help you find fun and joy in your own season of singleness and dating.

Resource: The Intimacy Ladder by Jason and Lauren Vallotton

Book Recommendation: How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Henry Cloud